Elder Porphyrios says we should not ask in our prayer for something like "free me from illness" or "solve my problem". What we should ask for is for His support and strength to deal with what we are given in life. It is natural for us to ask God for what we want. But this is self centered. Do we know what it is that God wants?
Elder Porphyrios says,
We shouldn't continue relentlessly in order to acquire what we want; rather we should leave all things to the will of God. What happens when we peruse what we want? These always increase and we are never satisfied with what we have. The more we chase after these wants the more elusive they become. If we pray for good grades next we will ask for a good job. Then it will be for a better job and so forth.What should we ask for in our prayer?
The Elder says,
In our prayer we should ask only for the salvation of our soul.... The secret is to ask for your union with Christ with utter selflessness, without saying "give me this" or "give me that."... We should ask for the will of God to be done.The enemy is our egoism.
St Porphyrios
Reference: Wounded By Love, p 117
